I’m a Pinterest junkie. You find things you like and then organize them into categories that you can go back to or reference at anytime. I came across this blog the other day while pinning and since I hadn’t verbally set my 2016 goals yet (and every article I’ve read about setting goals recommends writing them down to make you accountable), I figured I’ll start here. This blogger, Chelsea, recommends you ask yourself these five questions first that can help you in your goal setting. So here we go:
1. What is one way I want to be different by this time next year? Don’t think about circumstances or things you want to be different, think about how you want to be different.
I want to work on getting rid of my fear of confrontation. There are so many things I need to address and conversations I need to have on a regular basis that I procrastinate having and often end up settling on because I’d rather not have the difficult conversation about it. I know it’s holding me back to put off having certain conversations or in many cases, not having them at all.
2. What is one thing I want to accomplish this year?
One of my favorite things in life both personally and professionally (and often the lines blur) is developing and maintaining relationships with a fantastic network of all different types of people, who all bring different things to the table and all whom I admire and who are sources of endless inspiration. I had a conversation the other day with one of these people, Marie Griffin, who is a media trainer for some of the biggest names and companies in the world.
After our conversation, I immediately knew the one thing I want to accomplish this year:
Define what makes Sophie, Sophie. Who i am as a person beyond the obvious. What about me makes me photograph the way I do. Looking at my photographs, how is what I do different from what other photographers do. Put language to my work, which will help me craft who I am verbally. Why do people pick me to photograph a job? What are those defining factors? If you were going to overhear people in a room talking about why are they going to go with Sophie Elgort as their photographer, what are they saying? Define that thing that makes me stand out. There’s talent and then there’s that extra piece. Who do I admire? What resonates with me? Craft myself instead of letting others craft me. What about me separates me from the rest?
I know it seems a little self-involved, but I need to start treating my business (which is me) like a business, so this is top priority for 2016, not only defining it but then putting the message out there.
3. What is a quality I find myself admiring in others?
The ability to get things done quickly and check them off the list. It’s not always done 100% perfectly, but it’s 80% there. There was a great example a family friend of mine told me when he was talking about getting things done. If you need new pencils and you delegate the task, the person might come back with blue pencils when you wanted red, but at the end of the day, you have your pencils and the task is done. Another funny anecdote regarding this topic – one night, walking home after an event with a group of a few power women in the corporate world, we were having a conversation about our to-do lists. I mentioned that I almost never complete mine and one woman responded something like, “well then the things on it must not be that important.” That really resonated with me, mostly because she’s right, some of them aren’t that important and therefore other things should be prioritized, but some of them are important and I procrastinate doing them only to my detriment.
I think this lack of being able to finish my to-do lists relates to my first answer – getting rid of my fear of confrontation. Often, I don’t get things done because I’m nervous about a conversation I have to have in order to complete certain tasks, so I put it off. It’s all connected.
4. What will make me proud of myself a year from now?
I want to be a judge on a fashion Reality-Competition TV show and do fashion news correspondent segments. There, I said it. I’ve done some fashion and photography segments and profiles on TV which I really enjoy and while I keep growing my photography career, I’d like to be a judge or contributor to a show like Project Runway Junior or Americas Next Top Model or other media opportunities of that sort.
5. What is a word that embodies what I want out of this year?
Self-awareness. Here’s the definition: Self–awareness is the capacity for introspection and the ability to recognize oneself as an individual separate from the environment and other individuals.
Happy new year!